Hi, I'm Barb. I'm was codependent too!
I had no boundaries and was constantly people-pleasing others, so if that’s you I know what it’s like. You’re constantly worried about what other people are doing (or not doing!) and what other people are thinking of you. Meanwhile, you’re neglecting your own needs and not taking care of yourself. I still help people, but I’m no longer rescuing them and it comes from a place of caring, not a feeling of obligation. And I also have really healthy boundaries which means I take really good care of myself, stay out of situations that drain me, and have plenty of energy to help those who are willing to help themselves. I no longer spend energy helping people who have no interest in helping themselves. If you’d like to learn now to develop boundaries, stop the people-pleasing and take care of yourself I can help! Read more...[link to bio page]
If you prefer to listen, here's "My Story in Brief," the first episode of my podcast.
If you prefer to listen, here's "My Story in Brief," the first episode of my podcast.
Here are some things that can help you recover from codependence.
- I wrote this article to help teach you how to focus on that you CAN control (hint: it's not "other people!")
- These are my top five podcast episodes I recommend for codependent people.
Tips and Scripts for Saying "No" Handout
This handout has tips and scripts for saying no in all kinds of situations - with family, friends or colleagues.
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